Showing posts with label nostalgic. Show all posts
Showing posts with label nostalgic. Show all posts

Aug 5, 2009

Fictitious memory lane!

It goes all the way back to the honeymoon days (means more than six years ago) when I penned down the first memoir fiction. Wanted to share this amateur piece of work:

Visiting In-laws and Return of the Bride
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It was ringing of the phone that jolted me out of sleep. I saw the alarm beside me showing 1am, I grabbed the phone and sat next to window sill covered with snow on the other side.
My brother-in-law’s voice was loud and clear on other side, “did I wake you up, I’m sorry, just wanted you guys to know that the flight just left the airport now”. I murmured an ok and went back to bed.

That’s when my mind started tracking events from past six months. “Was it already six months” I thought. It is as though just yesterday I bid my parents and in-laws goodbye and flew with hubby to this alien land called USA.
Well, right after we settled in, I went back to my usual jean-clad girl. Seeing me only in saris for a month back home, my hubby was astonished to see me so comfortable only in jeans and tee.
Nevertheless, he didn’t complain.

Slowly I too began to backtrack. My medium ‘red bindi’ got replaced by small ‘black bindi’.
‘Fall’ started and I had to flaunt my new boots, so off came my sacred toe-rings(my grandma would have strangled me if she was here!!).
My long gold earring were replaced with silver studs bought at the mall and my gold bangles swapped for funky beads bracelet shopped at the ‘gems show’; so on and so forth the replacements grew and I was back to looking like some happy-go-lucky college grad.

It was already 6 months of marital bliss when by hubby decided it was time to get his parents to visit us in US.
Expect for weekly phone calls, I hadn’t interacted with my in-laws much during one month back home after marriage, so I was anxious to meet them and above of all I was happy that I will have company during daytime when hubby was off to work and readily agreed to his proposal.
After months of planning and preparation by restless hubby, both in-laws passports, visas, plane tickets and medical insurance was ready at last.
Right after all this the reins of the show were passed on to me.
All I had to do was play the perfect hostess, make them at ease, plan for trips or that’s what I thought. The day I started to make shopping list, panic hit me. Finally I decided to go about in steps to be ready for my in-laws.

First step: Shopping (Hubby whined that shopping seems to be the first step for everything for women and I agreed without tetchy!)
The small condo of our which horded two had to be modified to host four people for six months!
So first and foremost I needed to have a twin mattresses and extra comforters. Even thought spring was about to start, you can never believe the ‘New England’ weather. So it was bedding, bedding and more bedding. Then it was more and more of the crockery and the utensils and the toiletries and the list were endless.

Second step: Jewelry
Out came my jewelry box from the safe. All my silver, funky items were replaced by traditional gold bangles, earrings and I slipped on my toe-rings too. After all I wanted to be the prefect DIL. Third step: Cleaning

With so much shopping and so little space, everything seemed crammed. And the closet had to be let out for two more people.
I began to clear the clutter and veil my lingerie and cosmetics.
Hubby thought this whole episode was very funny, doing more shopping and cleaning up after that. I ignored his comments and went on to tackle the kitchen. When I slid into the bed that night, my body ached but my kitchen shone like picture perfect for ‘Vim’ ad!!!!!

This is when I came back to reality, sat up on the bed and remembered the phone call that had woken me up. I glanced my bedroom which I had tastefully decorated (thanks to Martha Stewart and Kmart items!!) and fell back to sleep blissfully thinking everything is perfect for tomorrow.

Finally the D-day arrived; hubby gave me clear instructions to prepare lunch and rushed to office. I prepared my atte’s(MIL) favorite chutney and mava(FIL)’s preferred ‘rasam’ and got ready. Hubby picked up me from home and we were at the airport at noon. My in-laws arrived and after usual hugs and wishes we drove back home.

I served them lunch and waited anxious for my results. At last my FIL spoke “the food is excellent, it’s so much better compared to what airlines served us”
I was thrilled like I had passed my first subject in distinction and looked at hubby who was happily enjoying his ‘savigepayasam!
After lunch I took my in-laws for a guide tour around the condo and our apartment. Seems like MIL was impressed with my decorations and I again passed the second subject with a remark,” since only two of you live, it shouldn't’t be much work around the house cleaning”. I didn’t care about the last statement, I was just happy that they were contented.

Next morning was a Saturday. Even then my alarm rang at 7am (it seemed like pretty early to wake up for a weekend!). I prepared the filter coffee (thank god I had remembered to get that madras coffee filter and packets of ‘kwality’ coffee powder from India), served coffee to in-laws and hubby’s face lit up like a chandelier when he got his filter coffee in bed!!!!
We decided to hit the mall and hubby suggested we can visit the temple on the way and give a small tour of the county too. I got dressed as usual in my jeans and jacket and came out to the living room to join everyone. My FIL observed my face for a while and asked “Why don’t you put on a bigger bindi, I could hardly see your black bindi on the forehead”. Oooops!!! I had forgotten that I have to ditch my back eyeliner and return to the red ‘sringarkumkum tube.

I was about to hurry back in to change the ‘bindi’ when my MIL spoke “I thought you can wear one of those saris lying in your closet hanger to the temple”. I had forgotten that hubby had suggested temple on the way to mall.
I stepped out after half-hour later admiring myself that I looked gorgeous in the embroidery sari and the colorful bindi that’s when my hubby sneaked up behind me and whispered,
“Thank god, I’m will be getting my South Indian Bride back for a few months at least”…………..

May 28, 2009

Fish out of water!

That's not the entire summary of vacation back home, but just a queasy feeling.
The trip is based on notion that time stood still since we departed from homeland seeking fortunes aboard [dramatized sentence].
Alas, no such luck.

People, relationships, circumstances keep constantly changing. How naive to think otherwise.

What am i blabbering about, there's one example:
I was invited for a ceremony on second day of vacation. Yearning to meet up with cousins and enjoy a sumptuous meal I arrived early than usual. The initial greetings were exchanged and there was four hours to lunch to go on.
This is where everybody settle into groups to start chatting. Everyone around me started exchanging details about their latest Saree trends, cellphone trends, kids-schools/summer camps, the daily-soaps, the drama in last week's second-cousin's-brother's daughter wedding, the latest restaurant in the city, the latest local movie. Since my knowledge base about these are bare minimum (or zero) it was like watching a mixed-doubles tennis match!

There were few more such similar funny ones: Recovering from jet-lag I wake-up at 10am to find the household empty except for granny. Of course the house is cleaned, food cooked but everyone is off to work. What else do you do except talk with granny, switch channels or shop. Well, that's vacation for you said someone. True.
Then I reflect that I would have to set off to work first thing in the morning even if the family is visiting me for a month!

The only slot available for family get-together is the weekend but of course then I need to scratch out my friends appointments since they are free only on weekends! Here are list of simple things I miss when I visit (trying to re-encat those memorial nostlic moments before I left Bangalore half-a-dozen years ago):
I miss those late-night chats with neighbors/friends (all the people in my block have moved out since they got nice real estate prices for their homes, friends married and off and living at their in-laws/aboard). And these days, who has time to socialize with neighbors!), just playing badminton outside on an early afternoon, evening outings with just to eat bhel-puri, watching an old movie with family/friends/cousins for 100th time!

In spite of all these, just the sheer joy of seeing the family and spending time sitting idly amidst their company is more than enough for the homesick-soul.
The love showered by all of them gets the battery recharged !!!

Feb 25, 2009

Rahman: Leo Coffee ad

This is a nostalgic leo coffee ad from 90's, the jingle score from A.R.Rahman:





Intrestingly, the new ad has been changed to reflect the current times!!!

Aug 27, 2008

As a kid.....

1. I thought birds resided in heaven overnight and flew down to earth at dawn!

2. Ate the 'cone ice-cream' backwards (Ofcouse its a different story that there was nomore ice-cream left after few minutes)


3. Made biscuit pudding everday. Recipe: Lay down four biscuits in a plate and pour coffee over it!)


4. Jumped on couch during 7 o'clock news jingle until i fell down and hit my head one fine day.5. Enjoyed eating red-brick and sand (don't even ask me why)!!!!!!!!!!

Jul 12, 2008

Revisting childhood..btw, Fastpass is free!!!

I always knew I would visit Disneyland and meet princess Sleeping Beauty and Ariel ever since I was like six, however i didn't know it would after my twenty-seventh birthday!!

The whole Disneyland experience was like dream-come true expect I liked the Six-flags rides much better :-)

The first stop in the California Disneyland with parents was 'Adventure land' boat ride. Wonderfully created creatures amuse you through their water sprout or the robotic African tribesmen dance around the skulls!! After lot of research (means 'googling') I knew fastpass must be free. So before exploring the 'Tarzan tree house' we got the fast pass (just inset your ticket and a ticket with specified time to enter the fastpass queue) for 'Indian Jones' ride.

Next was watching 'Jack Sparrow' in the Pirates of Caribbean rides :-) Had to explain to dad that this was one of my favorite character for few years now!

I think the Horror house is perfectly made for all ages...the banquets hall with all the dancing ghosts and the monsters mirrors are amazing. I also loved those chairs on which we ride!

Splash Mountain and Indian Jones ride were amazing. Next we passed the 'Sleeping Beauty' castle. I enquired if I could take a picture of any princess inside the caste. However, due to a award ceremony later in the evening....there were no princess inside.

Finally, my mom remembered telling me the story of the puppet during the Pinocchio ride!!

It was funny to see my parents awe at me like I was telling them formulas when I started reciting the names Pluto, Goofy, Uncle Scourge, Ursula,Flounder, King Triton, Bella, Beast, Simba, Zazu, Chip and Dale!! clicking pictures during the Disney Parade!!!
This is definitely the best part of visiting the park---the parade acts like a tranquiler taking you to the magical world!

The worst rides are in Asto and the race track. The cars don't even move more than 10pmh. Mom never bothered to ride any of them!

We managed to cover most of the rides (thanks to the free FastPass) from 9am to 8pm. Unfortunately, the fireworks was cancelled!. More importantly I realized that even when I'm nearing thirty mom made sure I ate and hydrated all along and dad kept an eye on me and made sure I didn't get lost at Disneyland!

Apr 3, 2008

the other social life....

The life at back home was hectic. Apart from attending collage or going to work, it was mandatory to attend all family functions, part take in festivals without whining, errands to run, friends to meet, cousins to catch up with and manage to take some time to yourself. This WAS life and there were no complaints.

Perhaps the one reason I didn't complain of loneliness or boredom when I landed here was subconscious I wanted a break; but didn't realise it will be a long one (like the quote goes---"Be careful what you wish for") .

Life in alien land is quite different. Silent suburb with just television and pc your window to outside world (ofcourse telephone too), new friends who can meet only on weekends (basically, the social life here revolves around weekends) ; but family functions to attend-nil.

I miss all these subtle things :

Having a south Indian meal(on plantain leaf),

the diverse special desserts and the the hot oil baths on early morningduring festivals,

gossiping with cousins during the 5-hour marriage rituals and the 1-hour queue during reception,

trying to guess weird names for nieces and nephews during 'nakamarka' ceremony,

sneaking out for cuppa of coffee during long hours of 'homas'/poojas....the list endless.

Jan 15, 2008

Ellu Bella!

This is my fourth year away from festivities back home. Sigh!




Waiting in the puja room for my granddad to finish the ceremony was agonizing; especially when the new dress right in front of me was out of bounds until ‘ellu bella’ was distributed!

This is one the earliest memories of ‘Sankranthi’.‘Sankrathi’/ Pongal is actually a harvest festival important to farmers across Karnataka, Andra Pradesh, Tamilnadu and Maharashtra where the harvest crops and cows are worshipped, Jaggerry, turmeric and ellu are distributed and grand meal made from the harvest crops (groundnuts, pumpins, etc) are prepared.

However, I think we the city-dwellers have totally materialized it. The most important is ellu distribution (in a silver or plastic container according to your budget!) along with sugarcane, candy made out of sugar (instead of plain old jaggery), fruits.

Even though its commercialized, festival always brings those warm feeling of home, love and fun. Since my grandma was my baby-sitter, I was her helping hand (or I thought so!). So, here goes her meticulous preparation before the d-day as far I can remember:
Each year she calculated her distribution list (usually around 50-100 houses) and ordered the appropriate grocery from the local shop just after the english New Year started.
The jaggery and dried coconut (copra) were cut into small squares (grandma reluctantly allowed the maids cut just the coconut/jaggery since this was sacred!)
Next the Split channa dal, small squares of jaggery, small squares of dried coconut were dried out in bright sunlight for two days.
Groundnut was dry roasted with sand (so that groundnut color remains white even after its roasted!).
And I loved the technique in which my grandma removed the outer pinkish skin of these groundnuts----she put them on a plate, rubbed her hand against them, tossed them a bit blew out the peeled outer sking! The peanuts now looked pearly white!
Now the peanuts were dried in the sunlight while she kept a watch on them (I had to restrain myself from eating these since these had be offered to God before distributing!)
One entire afternoon was dedicated to prepare the sugar candy called ‘Sakara Acchu’ .
One afternoon dedicated to shopping for the latest item (plastic/ceramic plates, bowls, ect which has arrived in market.
I remember distributing sliver items when my sisters and cousin brother were born!

The sugarcane (which will be cut to around 6 inches pieces) is usually bought on the last day.

The day before the festival is packing day----this is huge because we were supposed pack around 50-100 packets or put a handful of ellu-bella mixture in containers and seal them.

Finally on the D-day after the morning bath, prayers and taking the blessing of elders, it was time to freak out!
Dad to drive us around to relatives place (which are visited once a year on this day) all around the Bangalore in our Fiat; I used to love to flaunt the new clothes and jewelry!
And food……I used to be tried of tasting different varieties of Pongal (both spicy and sweet) in a single day!!!!!

The evenings were dedicated to neighbors and friends. We little ones tagged with neighborhood older kids to distribute ellu to every house on the street; even to few 3-4 blocks away, although not the everyday neighbors; they were grandma’s friends who had settled in the area back in the 40’s and 50’s.

Well…..that was ‘Sankrathi’ for me back home. Even though we rarely visit the temple to part-take in the festivities here, I usally make it a point to prepare the Ellu Bella, Pongal and the traditional sambar at home (is it to get that warm, cozy,homly feeling?? Or to keep up the tradition/culture?? I don’t know the answer).


Ellu-Bella:

1 cup groundnut
1 cup spilt channa
1 cup cut jaggery
1/2 cup cut coconut
¼ cup of sesame seeds.

Dry roast the peanuts in the microvware or on stove. Leave them aside to cool.
Roast the seasem seeds until they stop spluttering around. Leave them aside to cool.
Cut Jaggery into small squares (this is the hardest part).
Cut dry coconut into small squares.
Remove the outer pinkish/red skin on the groundnuts (might take a while) and split the grounduts into halves.

Jan 2, 2008

Flashback--2007

2007 has been a roller coaster year for me---personally, financially and emotionally. Here's the list of times (not in the right order though).

Personal achievements (pat on the back!):
  • I bought a two-bedroom flat in Bangalore with two-year savings.
  • Assumed responsibility on family front.
  • Shared a nice bond for almost nine months with my niece.
  • Got my Greencard (Thanks to KC for this!)
  • Sponsored my parents for Business visa (they now have 10-year multiple visa to US)
  • Worked hard in the office and received a ~7% rise in pay.
  • Invested a huge amount in stock market.
  • Spent more time with my sisters (as promised).

But I've scummed to few vices and not proud about it, so here goes the 'devil's list':
  • Tried tobacco and almost addicted to alcohol.
  • Didn't visit three first cousin's weddings.
  • Lost contact with few friends (not proud of it)
  • Didn't learn any new skills at work (expect for Asterisk configuration).

Dec 29, 2007

Ninny...the little niece


This photo was taken by KC during our trip to the Nashoba Winery this summer. Miss my little shopping companion, story-teller, jester and most of all her endless energy reserve!


Oct 28, 2007

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Dedicated to some-out-there!

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Watched it about a hundered times too!

Mood: Nostalgic

P.S: Dedicated to KC!